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Good advice: Approach a co-parent as you would a co-worker

 

It’s helpful if you can take emotions out of the process (as much as possible)

The other day I came across this piece on Worthy.com, and it’s stuck with me. The core of the piece is that when it comes to custody and co-parenting arrangements between former spouses, the more you can behave as though your ex is a co-worker with whom you need to accomplish specific tasks rather than someone with whom you have a complicated, non-professional past, the better the parenting thing will go.

Not a particularly complex idea – in theory. I recognize it’s much harder in practice. But if you’re in the process of a separation or divorce in which there are young children involved, this may be a helpful article.

Most people know the difference between a personal versus a professional relationship. A personal relationship is usually a friendship that includes voluntary sharing of time, knowing intimate details about one another, and is a more relaxed partnership wherein the parties can be their true, uninhibited self. A professional relationship tends to be more reserved. Information is more guarded, people tend to be on their best behavior, and the relationship is usually confined to specific times and places.

 

Read the rest of the piece here.